So a few days ago, I was with a friend of mine and we stopped by our local health store. This is a great spot for all my vitamins and protein powder and the owner is a great gal that I have gotten to know over the course of the last few years.
On this visit, my friend was wandering down the aisles as I grabbed the items on my list and I heard her giggle a little. Looking over, she approached me with a big bottle with a flashy green label that loudly proclaimed it was a ‘fat burner’.
I raised my eyebrows at my friend and waited for an explanation. She grinned and said, “Here, I found you the perfect product for when your will power stops working. You can eat whatever you want and still burn fat, Maybe you can sell it to your clients.”
I didn’t reply for a few seconds but I think my face was pretty expressively responding anyhow. I don’t believe in fat burners or diet pills or any kind of product that promises things like ‘boosting your metabolism, burning fat while you eat whatever you want.” It’s a bunch of crapola.
So I just said ‘pass’ and she giggled and returned it to the shelf. We left the store with my vitamins and I was left with the impression that there was more to that encounter than we had discussed. So I asked my friend why she had really picked up the supplement and showed it to me.
Here’s what she told me: that my health and weight loss journey HAD to come to an end sometime. At some point I would start to rebound and realize that it was time to ditch the healthy lifestyle, gain a little weight and start looking for those quick fixes again. I was floored.
You see, I did the yo-yo diet thing for 30+ years. I tried quick fixes and supplements like that over and over. All diets and diet products taught me was to rely on an external source and that I wasn’t capable of making healthy choices on my own. And guess what? No surprise that everytime I tried a diet or a diet product, I might have seen some initial success but I didn’t learn anything that would help me sustain that weight loss. So obviously as the allure for that particular product or diet waned … I just went back to what I knew. Regular eating.
Rinse and repeat.
It wasn’t until I ditched dieting and started building healthy habits that I made any kind of sustainable progress. I had to learn what good nutrition was. I had to build healthy habits and skills so I could reach my goals. But here’s the thing: once I stopped relying on diets and started relying on myself I felt stronger. More confident I made educated choices about food. I sought help when I needed it and I built confidence in my abilities to be able to eat real food and not stress about gaining all the weight back.
And this confidence didn’t just affect my food choices. It lapped over into how I felt about my body because the choices I was making weren’t to ‘get skinny’ but rather to nourish and take care of the body I had. To be the best version of myself – regardless of what the scale said that morning – and to keep making healthy choices to take care of myself.
I stopped worrying that I was going to fuck this up.
Today I am 85 lbs lighter and in the best shape of my life. My journey motivated me to become a certified nutrition coach and help others who were struggling on the same frustrating diet hamster wheel and getting nowhere fast.
So, having this come from my friend alerted me to a few things.
First of all, she (like so many of us women) doesn’t have much confidence in her ability to lose weight without gimmicks or quick fix supplements/wraps/teas … whatever.
Second of all, she thinks that dieting is ‘normal’. And that we women are just not capable of sustainable long term weight loss.
That’s a lot to take in but I want you to think about it. Like REALLY think about it. Do you think that dieting is ‘normal’? Do you have confidence in your ability to lose weight and keep it off? Do you think the only way you can lose weight is through a restrictive diet or with the help of ‘fat burners’ or the like?
If so, we need to talk.
Like a come to Jesus, good ole chat.
Because if you answered ‘yes’ to any or all of the above, it’s time for a reboot. As in, when did you stop believing in yourself and your own power over your body?
I see it all the time. Women who have no confidence in themselves, in their abilities to make healthy choices and to build healthy habits. Women with excuses and an underlying lack of confidence in themselves, looking desperately for external solutions that are nothing but short term bandaid options.
Ladies, it’s time to take your power back. It’s time to stop believing the lies the diet industry is feeding you. That you need product ‘x’ to lose weight. Or you can only lose weight by counting points or wrapping yourself in saran wrap. It’s all a crock of shit.
You are strong. You are powerful. You got this.
You don’t need magic fix it all solutions. All you need is the right mindset and a willingness to invest time into improving your health, nutrition & fitness. You don’t need to spend thousands on products or a weight loss program. You just need to realize that diets don’t solve the problems you have. They don’t address your ‘regular lifestyle’, they just take it over for awhile until you get tired of it and go back to how you used to live and eat.
Eating healthy, managing our weight and living is all possible. Diet-free. It’s just not a quick fix. It’s a lifelong committment to our bodies that we are going to make positive choices to eat better, move more, practice self care & stay consistent. It’s about practicing self-love and not self-judgement.
Seriously. As a nutrition coach I want to empower you to start taking some of your own power and control back. Research what good nutrition is all about. Stop making excuses about why you can’t workout and actually make a plan to get sweaty 3+ times a week. Challenge yourself to improve the quality of foods you eat (not change them all out) and be kind to yourself.
It takes time.There is no finish line. And you are worth every second you spend on improving your health & building a lifestyle that doesn’t make you run screaming for the ‘normal way’ you used to eat and live.
I live this lifestyle everyday. Even though my friend is skeptical, and maybe you are too, the healthy habits weren’t built so I could ditch them – they were built to create the framework for a lifestyle that supports & nourishes me. When life is busy or stressful, I have a plan for that. When we eat out, I make good choices and if I indulge, I own that. I own my own power and it’s freaking amazing.
Win, win, win.
Because losing or gaining weight is only a small part of who you are and what you do. And even though the diet industry has most of us afraid of food, afraid of our own choices and afraid of our bodies … I am telling you that you can take that power back.
Because that power is rooted in the confidence and belief that you can’t screw this up. Not if you have a plan. Not if you are making choices to nourish your body instead of punishing it. Not if you educate yourself and get real about your priorities. Not if you get real about the timeline and decide that this isn’t a 21-day thing, its a forever thing.
You can take off the diet blinders … there is a whole freaking world out here. And it’s all about balance.
Start small. Start with one meal, one day, one choice. Build from there. If you need help figuring out healthy nutrition, I am your gal. If you want help creating healthy meals that don’t suck, I got you covered.
Take your power back. Believe in YOU and your ability to live a healthy lifestyle that is diet free with not a fat burning supplement or slimming tea in sight. Choose to rely on your strength, your abilities to make mindful choices even if it feels scary to do so.
It’s about living your life, not dieting your life away.
Are you ready to be healthy & strong?